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前言 站起來，再一次重新開始

• Brene Brown在UT Austin的畢業致詞影片: Don’t Be Afraid to Fall: Brené Brown Addresses The University of Texas at Austin’s 2020 Graduates  
• Building your resilience

Part 1 在逆境中，建立復原力

01 當人生A選項消失

• Sheryl Sandberg 的著作 Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy
• Sheryl Sandberg on coronavirus: Right now, everyone’s living in Option B

02 復原力，是可以培養的

• 美國賓州大學(U Penn)復原力program網站
• UPenn復原力線上課程(免費): Resilience Skills in a Time of Uncertainty
• Karen Reivich博士的著作 The Resilience Factor: 7 Keys to Finding Your Inner Strength and Overcoming Life’s Hurdles

03 毒性正能量，讓我們不願意看見失敗 

• CV of Failure by Dr. Johannes Haushofer
• Toxic Positivity: The Dark Side of Positive Vibes
• The Tyranny of Relentless Positivity
• The Tyranny of Positive Thinking Can Threaten Your Health and Happiness
• 2012年的研究: Feeling Bad About Being Sad: The Role of Social Expectancies in Amplifying Negative Mood

04 照顧心理傷口，沒有快速捷徑

• ‘We Are Not All In The Same Boat…’ Covid Poster & Poem Win Internet; Here’s Their Story
• Viktor Frankl的著作 Men’s Search for Meaning
• Post-Traumatic Growth
• Post-Traumatic Growth Research Group

Part 2 復原力在情緒和身體裡

05 在身體裡，有在家的感覺

• Susan David博士TED演講: The gift and power of emotional courage
• Keith Richards的著作 Life
• Tara Brach的著作 Radical Compassion: Learning to Love Yourself and Your World with the Practice of RAIN
• Self-Compassion website
• Kristen Neff博士的著作 Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself

06 面對哀悼，學習失去的藝術

• Elizabeth Bishop的詩作品 One Art
• That Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief
• David Kessler and Brené on Grief and Finding Meaning
• Brené on Comparative Suffering, the 50/50 Myth, and Settling the Ball
• Susan David博士TED演講: The gift and power of emotional courage
• Expressive Writing: A Tool for Transformation, with Dr. James Pennebaker, Ph.D.

07 好好傾聽，內疚在告訴你什麼？

• Guy Winch 博士的著作 Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts Paperback
• 佛教學者Thupten Jinpa博士解釋內疚訪談: On the Front Lines: Compassion-Based Strategies
• How to Manage Pandemic Guilt

08 歡迎那些不被歡迎的──來抱怨吧！

• The Joy of Complaining—Esther Perel
• Marc Brackett 的著作 Permission to Feel
• Pema Chodron 的著作 Welcoming the Unwelcome: Wholehearted Living in a Brokenhearted World

09 傾聽沒有語言的聲音──身體在告訴你什麼？

• Deb Dana 的著作 The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation
• A Beginner’s Guide to Polyvagal Theory by Deb Dana
• Dr. Steven Porges的網站

10 向孤獨靠近，練習和自己相處

• Hawaii hiker Amanda Eller speaks publicly after being lost for two weeks
• Gabor Maté醫師的著作 In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
• Gabor Maté醫師的TED演講: The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power
• Internal Family System Therapy 網站
• Jon Kabat-Zinn的著作 Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life

Part 3 復原力在大腦裡

11 面對失敗──這是挑戰，還是威脅？

• Guy Winch博士的著作 Emotional First Aid
• Spanx founder Sara Blakely learned an important lesson about failure from her dad

12 建立成長心態，提升復原力

• Carol Dweck 博士的著作 Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Paperback
• Fixed vs. Growth: The Two Basic Mindsets That Shape Our Lives
• Carol Dweck: A Summary of Growth and Fixed Mindsets
• 美國臨床社工師Amy Morin的著作 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do: Own Your Power, Channel Your Confidence, and Find Your Authentic Voice for a Life of Meaning and Joy
• Is Everyone Happier Than You On Social Media?
• 我們傾向低估別人正在經歷的負面情緒，高估別人的正向情緒–研究來自Jordan, A. H., Monin, B., Dweck, C. S., Lovett, B. J., John, O. P., & Gross, J. J. (2011). Misery has more company than people think: underestimating the prevalence of others’ negative emotions. Personality & Social Psychology Bulletin, 37(1), 120–35.
• 向上或向下比較的神經系統反應–研究來自 The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation
• The Comparing Trap by Thomas J. DeLong

13 聽！你的大腦在編造什麼故事？

• 五種慣性思考模式–來自UPenn復原力線上課程(免費): Resilience Skills in a Time of Uncertainty
• Confronting the Negativity Bias

14 樂觀不樂觀 觀看你如何解讀

• UPenn復原力線上課程(免費): Resilience Skills in a Time of Uncertainty
• Martin Seligman博士的著作 Learned Optimism: How to Change Your Mind and Your Life
• Gillham, J. E., Shatté Andrew J, Reivich, K. J., Seligman, M. E. P., & Chang, Edward C. (2001). In Optimism, pessimism, and explanatory style (pp. 53–75). essay. https://doi.org/10.1037/10385-003
• The 3 P’s of Emotional Resilience

15 當人生梯子被拿掉，該何去何從？

• Sheryl Sandberg的著作 Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
• How Often Do People Change Jobs During a Lifetime?
• Bruce Perry醫師的訪談: Bruce Perry, MD, PhD. Staying Emotionally Close In The Time of COVID-19
• Rachel Botsman TED演講談論信任
• Rachel Botsman的網站
• Brene Brown Podcast: Brené on FFTs
• Susan David博士的網站

16 在逆境中，善用自己的優點

• 若要做VIA 個人強項測驗 (VIA survey of character strengths) 請到U Penn測驗中心(免費做測驗)，選取「VIA survey of character strengths」，網頁右上角可以將語言設定改為中文，就可以做中文測驗。
• UPenn復原力線上課程(免費): Resilience Skills in a Time of Uncertainty

Part 4 復原力在關係裡

17 建立關係智商，提高復原力

• Robert Waldinger博士的TED演講: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness.
• Esther Perel演講: The Power of Relational Intelligence
• 7 Verbs That Shape the Way You Love (By Esther Perel)
• Vulnerability Cycle by Scheinkman, M., & Lebow, Jay. (2017).

18 當關係出現裂縫，光才能照進來

• How to Fix the Co-Founder Fights You’re Sick of Having — Lessons from Couples Therapist Esther Perel
• 神經系統梯子–Deb Dana 的著作 The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation
• The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
• Brené Brown on How to Reckon with Emotion and Change Your Narrative
• Brené Brown的著作 Rising Strong

19 修補關係，學習真心誠意的道歉

• 心態影響人際關係解讀，參見Carol Dweck博士的著作 Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
• Harriet Lerner博士談論道歉的Podcast: Harriet Lerner and Brené—I’m Sorry: How To Apologize & Why It Matters
• Harriet Lerner博士的著作: Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

20 當好事發生時，你也會在這裡陪我嗎？

• Shelly Gable博士的文章: Will You Be There for Me When Things Go Right? Supportive Responses to Positive Event Disclosures
• UPenn復原力線上課程(免費): Resilience Skills in a Time of Uncertainty

21 好好溝通──如何聽，比你如何說更重要

• Culture of Debate (爭辯文化) vs. Culture of Dialogue(對話文化) 來自Esther Perel線上講座: The Skills to have Difficult Conversations
• 一行禪師(Thích Nhất Hạnh)提出「同理傾聽」(Compassionate Listening): Conversations on Compassion with Thich Nhat Hanh

Part 5 當危機過後，你要帶走什麼？

22 經歷挫敗後，讓自己活回來

• Viktor Frankl 的著作 Man’s Search for Meaning
• Esther Perel分享父母親經歷的訪談 Esther Perel: Cultivating Desire [The Knowledge Project Ep. #71]
• David Kessler的著作 Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief
• “80 percent of success is just showing up" —Woody Allen
• 美國紐約市中心街道上寫下遺憾計畫: What’s Your Biggest Regret?

23 成長，需要讓自己能夠待在「之間」

• Elizabeth Gilbert談論疫情的TED演講: It’s OK to feel overwhelmed. Here’s what to do next
• Eckhart Tolle的著作 A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose

24 價值觀是你的北極星，幫助你指引方向

• 美國社工系教授Brene Brown的著作 Dare to Lead
• 澳洲作家Bronnie Ware的著作 The Top Five Regrets of the Dying
• Top five regrets of the dying
• 美國心理治療師Gretchen Schmelzer博士的文章: Learning How to Say No

25 你願不願意，讓自己重新開始？

• 美國心理系教授Ravenna Helson的研究: The Mills Study
• Maye Musk的著作 A Woman Makes a Plan: Advice for a Lifetime of Adventure, Beauty, and Success
• Marcel Proust引言: “The real voyage of discovery consists, not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes."
• 心理學家Thema Bryant-Davis引言: “Broken hearts can love again. Delayed dreams can live again. Anxious minds can find peace again. Some endings are beginnings.

後記 走進內心世界，找到復原力

• 美國精神科醫師Dan Siegel解釋「我我們」(MWe): Presence, Parenting and The Planet
• 美國心理學家Edith Eva Eger博士的著作 The Gift